Simplicity and Complexity

            During a time when a major conflict was occurring in the Middle East, I invited my friend Rabbi Arthur to speak to my congregation on “The Israeli Perspective.” The week before we’d heard a Palestinian advocate and wanted to hear the other side.

            Arthur stood in front of the 35 or so people in the meeting room.  Before he answered any of our questions, he introduced us to five Israelis he knew personally.  He went to the right side of the room, stood in one spot, and “introduced” us to his first friend.  He told us where this person had been born, some formative experiences that had shaped them, when they had come to settle in Israel, and some details of their daily life.  He then took several steps sideways and, planting himself in a second spot, introduced us to another friend in the same way.  He then moved to the middle of the room and told of a third friend.  He did it a fourth time, and then a fifth.  He stepped forward and said he was ready for the first question.  Someone raised their hand and asked. 

            “Well,” he said as he walked over to the second spot he’d stood in, “This friend of mine would say…” and proceed to answer the question as that friend would.

            “But my other friend…” he said as he walked to the fourth position, “Would say this…” and offered that friend’s perspective.  Then he stepped into the fifth spot and said, “And my good friend here sees it a bit differently from the other two. She would tell you this …”

            The questions and answers continued for the rest of the hour.  He continued answering every question by moving to two or three of the different places in the room where his friends “stood” as he shared each one’s opinion.

            When he finished the hour-long presentation, two things were clear: 1) there was no one “Israeli’ position on a particular political issue, but at least five; 2) the position each of his friends took grew out of their personal experiences.

            When we go to vote and there are only two candidates, we must pick one. Or if we are voting on a proposition with only “Yes” or “No” options, we must make a choice.  That either/or thinking is common in our current culture, and we may be tempted to listen to someone and quickly judge them as “right” or “wrong.”  But when we take the time to get to know people and discover why they feel the way they do, we might find out there are more nuances of complexity than we imagine.  We are also reminded that peoples’ positions and opinions come out of their specific life experiences.

            I knew an education professor who was an articulate advocate for women’s rights.  She was often asked to be on a panel where she’d be paired with someone who held a different position.  But after several such occasions, she would decline the invitation to speak if the panel was only going to have two perspectives — she insisted at least three be represented.

            When I was in Seattle, I took an excellent organizational leadership class.  The teacher encouraged us to always be ready to broaden our perspective on possible solutions to a problem.  Our habit, he said, was to say, “Let’s get a group together and find a solution.”  But he encouraged us to frame it differently: “Let’s get a group together and come up with at least three possible solutions, and then choose one.”

            I think of the great spiritual teachers.  They offer abiding truths that can apply to everyone. But then there are times when an individual approaches them with a specific question or concern. The teacher pauses and gets a sense of who this individual is and what they’ve faced in their life, and then says something very specific  You can see this in the Gospel stories – Jesus will offer one person direct physical healing, another assurance of forgiveness, another a challenge to examine their priorities more carefully, and another a parable that leaves them pondering issues far beyond what they had expected.

            Life is full of complexity, and we often don’t have the time, energy, or patience to consider multiple viewpoints.  But in situations where we do take the trouble to do so, we may not only get a better understanding of the situation but also gain an appreciation for other people and respect for how they came to see the world they do. 

Oliver Wendell Holmes famously said, “For the simplicity that lies this side of complexity, I would not give a fig, but for the simplicity that lies on the other side of complexity, I would give my life.”

            Rabbi Arthur was not simply a passive observer without his own opinions.  On the contrary, in his life he has never ceased being an advocate and activist for what he believes. So, on the day he spoke to us when people would ask him, “Well — what is your opinion?” he wouldn’t hesitate. He would position himself somewhere along the spectrum and tell us.  But we got the point: one can have strong and clear opinions and, at the same time, show genuine respect for those who might see things differently.

Photo: “Five Paths” (Cinco Caminos) by Richard Long, 2004, Es Baluard Museu d’Art Contemporani de Palma, depósito colección Serveis Ferroviaris de Mallorca

4 Comments

  1. maryannaransom says:

    Love this post

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  2. patriciacorrigan22gmailcom says:

    Thank you, Steve. I always find this hard to do – especially now that stakes seem so high. Irony is, now more than ever, respect for differing opinions is a pre-requisite to getting anywhere.

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  3. Tom Webster says:

    I saw this somewhere recently: “Patience is the food of understanding.”

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    1. Beautiful statement.

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